Founder Work-Life Balance: Why Boundaries Matter

My kids don't know what MER is. They don't know what a QBR is either.

They just know if I made bedtime.

That's the only scoreboard that matters to them, and it's a pretty good one.

For 4+ years, I worked almost every night after the kids went to sleep.

I don't regret that.

When you're building a company without the budget to hire your way out of the hours, you're doing 5 jobs instead of one.

That's just the deal early on.

Those late nights were some of my most productive hours.

But the hours were never the problem, because, at the time, it was me doing them.

The issue was what they trained everyone else to expect.

My team started noticing when my emails went out.
Midnight Slack messages became normal, because I never said otherwise.

Ben, our COO, pulled me aside and said:
"If you're working late, that's fine; just schedule the sends for the morning."

I adopted that immediately.
Same hours, just a different signal.

Clients were the same story.

I was answering emails at 11 pm, and without meaning to,
I set the expectation that Fluency answers messages any hour of the night.

That took a lot of work to walk back.

But it was never about working less.
It's about making sure your hours don't become everyone else's expectation too.

The other half, for me, has always been bedtime.

Home for dinner almost every night.
Bedtime almost every night.

That never moved, even in the hardest years.

I won't lie and say I've cracked the case.
I don't think any founder has.

But here's what I'm working on:
Phone down the second I walk in, not touched again until the kids are asleep.

That's it.

Yes, I love to work hard.
But I know now I need to make sure I enjoy life too.

Bedtime included.

What's one boundary you've built on purpose, even while working harder than ever?

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